10 Things I Hate About My Husband: A Deeper Look

Shayla Marie Huber

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Shayla is a rodeo wife to Cody, boy mom to Leroy and Wacey and they live in Iowa. She is an author and speaker passionate about helping women get rooted in their identity in God in order to thrive in their marriages, homes and lives!

In this podcast episode, Shayla Marie Huber, a devoted rodeo wife and mother of two, shares her transformative journey of faith and marriage. Once engrossed in a life of business and sales, Shayla experienced a spiritual rebirth in January 2023. Her newfound faith prompted her to pen a book, '10 Things I Hate About My Husband,' which delves into the complexities of marriage, addressing key issues like communication and intimacy. Shayla reveals how God's guidance helped her shift her perspective, heal past wounds, and ultimately deepen her understanding and appreciation of her marital relationship.

This last year and a half is when I had brand new reborn awakening with Jesus.

I really had that experience and it's changed my life. And he has transformed me into this person who is writing books and speaking on social media and things like that.

And it's been a wonderful blessing and a wonderful ride.

I've been a Christian my whole life. my mother raised me as a Christian, and I had a very strong foundation, went to youth group and conferences and went to church, and I had just a really great foundation as a Christian.

But as I grew up, there were some heart wounds that I had never dealt with. I had just a lot of things from the world that. That influenced me as a young person, and I went with it, you know, like many people do.

And so, yeah, I. I wouldn't say I ever, like, turned my back on God, but I would say that I struggled with my convictions and I struggled with living out what the Bible says and to.

To, you know, the truth. And when I had my reborn experience in January of 2023, that's when it was just like, boom, never again. There's no more of this gray.

There is black and there is white, and there is good and there is evil. And God has just given me this. This boldness to carry out the truth.

It's amazing. And I'm very thankful that I'm. I'm only 34, and a lot of people say, gosh, like, you're just full of wisdom and how do you know all this stuff?

And, wow, you wrote a marriage book and you've only been married for eight years and it's like, it's. It's just all. It's just all God and what he's walked me through.

And I'm very thankful.

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My husband and I, I looked at him as my enemy. I looked at him as like, oh, we're in competition. And that was a lie straight from the pits of hell. Me and my husband, we're fighting a lot.

Because I realized after getting rooted in God's love and literally just resting in him, abiding in him, building my relationship with him, he showed me, hey, a lot of the things you're hating about your husband, it has nothing to do with him.

It has everything to do with your heart, posture. It has everything to do with the things you experienced as a child, being a child of divorce, having a wound of rejection.

That. That is what has been projecting on your husband.

So a lot of times, the yelling and the fighting and the disappointment that you feel in your husband, it's because your heart is just yearning for me.

It was yearning for Jesus. And I had no idea that I had made my husband my savior.

And the Bible says, you will become a new creation. And I did. I. I became a new creation. But what's so beautiful?

You know the scripture that says you will lose your life, right, in order to follow Jesus.

Luke 9:24 (NIV)
"For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it."

You will gain, right? You will lose your life, but you will gain, in Jesus.

But that's what happened to me is it's like I lost my life that I was clinging to, and. And I became this version of Shayla that he always wanted me to be and always planned for me to be.

And it's like I found my true self because I found the Holy Spirit.

And I found how when he leads me and guides me I am exactly who I'm supposed to be, loving the people in my life the way that they're supposed to be loved.

And I'm allowing God to love me, which I hadn't done, you know, most of my Christian walk. I was almost scared of God's love. Or I was almost like, I'm not sure he loves me the way he loves other people.

I'm not sure he cares about my problems the way he cares about other people's problems. And I think that that came from an orphan spirit is where that came from.

And God truly delivered me from that and said, no, you are not an orphan. You are a daughter of God. And I started walking as a daughter of God. And when I started walking in, that identity changed everything.

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I want to share this video of the thousands of geese that have landed near my home in Brownsmead Oregon

Just incredible!

Our Creator is so amazing!